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Want to start a conversation with someone you don’t know? Is it your first day at a new job or school, or maybe you’re a plus-one at a party with no one you know? There are lots of situations where you can find yourself alone and just desperately wanting someone to come talk to you.
But you don’t need someone to approach you first, because you have conversation starters! You can start a conversation with anyone you want- don’t be intimidated. Read on for some conversation starters that will lead to fun and interesting conversations.
So, you’ve walked up to someone and introduced yourself, now what?
Ask them about a current event.
Okay, so this one might need some homework before you go to that party. Unless, you read a newspaper everyday… scan the hot topics for some articles that interest you while you’re getting ready. Word of caution: of course, you want to steer clear of obvious controversial topics like politics and religion. You don’t want to debate with or ruffle the feathers of a bunch of strangers, do you? No, you want to be pleasant and likeable.
Also, don’t pick stories that you know nothing about just because you think they will impress or make you look smart or cool. If you don’t know anything about stocks and bonds, people will realize soon enough.
Try to pick something unique or different about your companion, because there might be more of a story there to keep them talking. Some examples of conversation starting compliments: “That’s a pretty necklace. It’s pretty unique.” The response might be: “Yes, it’s an heirloom…” Or how about: “I love your hair. Do you have a hair salon you could recommend?”
These compliments will draw people out and you’ll be able to get to know them better.
Talk about what you have in common.
If you’re at a party ask them how they know the host. Respond by telling them a funny story that involved you and the host. Maybe you’re a foodie and the appetizers are great. Use what’s around you. Or if you’re at a new job, ask them what they enjoy about the company and what they’re looking to do with their career. You can continue by telling them how nervous you were at the interview.
Think about what surrounds you both and use it.
Consider the timing.
Are you at a retirement party? Halloween party? Ask them how they put together their costume. What was their most creative costume ever? Their favorite holiday memories?
Use the event specifics to spur your conversation efforts.
Now that you’ve got the conversation started, keep it going!
Important note: don’t get lost in your head- worried about what you should say next. You don’t have to stress about remembering your conversation starters. Just listen to the person you’re talking to and what you should say next will come naturally. Be interested in what they have to say and then respond with something just as funny and entertaining.
If you’re worried about putting your foot in your mouth, just remember these two things: stay away from controversial topics and don’t make fun of people (at the event or in the news). You don’t want to come off as a bully or mean.
Also, if you want to have an engaging conversation with someone- don’t pull out your phone! It’s the ultimate conversation killer. Plus, your companion might think you’re not interested and rude.
To conclude, hopefully this how to list of conversation starters helps you to approach people with more confidence to have fun and interesting conversations. Don’t be afraid- you can do it. Let’s achieve our life goal of having meaningful relationships with others! The conversation starts now!